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Jun
08 2014

11:48 PM

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Why I’ve been pushing people away

I’ve been actively pushing people away the past month and a half.

And I know people are getting increasingly exasperated. I’m sorry, but let me explain.

I used to be really open about things. To share with my friends exactly what is going on. I even detailed my health updates publicly in a blog as a form of release. My friends were my confidants, and I relied on them for emotional support.

Perhaps a little too much.

In 2010, I made a grave mistake. I had opened myself too much and trusted the wrong person. While this person was initially supportive, she soon lost her patience and subsequently made very harsh judgments. Judgments which rang into my ears until today.

I was really hurt. And since then, I stopped trusting.

I’ve stopped talking to anyone on this topic, and chose to rely on no one else but myself for emotional support. (Save for 1-2 close friends, and whining at my parents who I know for sure will not judge me no matter what.)

I’ve stopped letting people see me when when I’m down and under, and whenever I can, I put my strong face forward.

These days, when people broach the topic of my health, I change the subject entirely.

I also realized it’s better this way.

Emotionally, I’m better in touch with my feelings since and accepted the reality that certain conditions are going to be permanent and nothing is going to make it go away. I’m also used to coping on my own, after having done so for 3 and a half years.

Having to constantly account for my hospitalizations/illnesses to people is tiresome, and I’d really prefer not to go into it. I’m fine. I do not want anyone to pity me. And when people know too much, it inevitably opens a can of unsolicited medical advice (which I absolutely cannot stand).

And of course, I do not want my poor health to be top-of-mind recall when people see me. Let’s talk about happier things.

I’ve turned down several requests for hospital/home visitations. Because I know for sure we are going to (inevitably) talk about my health. I’m sorry, but I really don’t feel like talking about it. Plus, I am no longer comfortable with people seeing me when I’m weak. Let’s meet when I feel better. I’m no fun when I’m down.

I’ve ignored countless messages on Whatsapp. I’m sorry. I know you guys are worried, but I’d like you to know that I am handling things just fine and you don’t have to worry about me.

Please give me time. The crazy one will be back soon.

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