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Nov
29 2010

The deviant child

It’s not easy being the deviant child in a world full of norms and conventions, and expectations. You receive loads of frowns, disapproving looks, and remarks brimming with barely concealed skepticism.

Conformity is dead
Conformity is dead.

That fact that I:-

1. Refuse to put on a mask in a two-faced society, of which its notoriety strips people off who they are at heart and become someone else altogether; what society wants them to be and not what they want to be.

2. Choose to work in a dynamic start-up known for their instability and susceptibility (bearing in mind the cold hard fact that 9 out of 10 startups fail) because of rather than take the conventional route of looking for work in a Big 5 Company or an MNC.

3. Choose to chase my own dreams and do what I want to do despite its risks. Rather than “making practical choices” or going with “what works and is more likely to succeed”.

4. Am an asexual being in an Asian society where coupledom, marriage and starting a family is much encouraged (or even expected), and being surrounded by friends who all have partners themselves.

5. Am the only tomboy in an extended family full of pretty faces – both sides of the family, material and paternal. All my like-gendered cousins are drop dead good-looking. No doubt. And very feminine. Whereas I choose to prance around in tees, jeans, caps and sneakers.

(Until today, I’m pretty sure the aunts and uncles think something, somewhere has gone horribly wrong. We all know the older generation – any form of deviant behaviour is a defect to them.)

6. Refuse to betray in the face of an increasingly vindictive society. In a world where politics and boot-licking are rife, I choose to play fair by competing based on ability and skill.

7. Defy authority. Not to the point of breaking the law. But basically, challenging conventional, old-fashioned behaviour, or rules meant to ‘put you in your place’ or to ‘ensure conformity’.

8. Am an Atheist in an extended family of Christians and Catholics.

– makes me deviant on almost all possible angles.

(Note: Not all mentioned conventions, per se. Some of which are increasingly common behaviour in which new players are “expected” to take on, otherwise “they’d be at a disadvantage”, so to speak.)

The fact that I am deviant and (usually) unable to hold my own in a verbal dispute makes me particularly vulnerable. My mind may be rife with my own thought-processes, which I am unable to properly articulate because emotions take over very quickly. I stutter like hell.

This means that I’d better grow a solid pair of balls. Fast. Before I lose my ground against someone who comes along and stares me down like I’m some freak of nature.

I am beyond proud, and happy to be who I am, and where I am now, and I do not want to lose that.

What are your deviant traits and how do you stand your ground against your sceptics?

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  • 29 Nov 2010
    7:26 AM

    Krith

    My Deviations? Can I call it that? :)
    – having been a tomboy in my precious teenage years and being ridiculed for it. Now things HAVE changed but thanks to my own preferences and not because my mom made me wear frilly poofy skirts all the time although I do need to give credit for that :(
    – thinking unconventional possibilities which really piss people off..especially since I hail from an orthodox conservative (guess I am trying to emphasize that as much as possible!) family. No thoughts of homosexuality, let alone talk about it..heck, I didn’t know about the birds and bees till I was 16!

    Loved the post..awoke that rebellious girl inside me who has been in slumber for a long long time…

    • 29 Nov 2010
      2:26 PM

      brendalogy

      I hear you on the conservative family bit! The extended family (middle aged members and above) have an issue with me being asexual, let alone homosexual. All their attempts to “talk me round” and statements such as “naaah, you’ll change when you get older” are quite laughworthy, actually. Totally not happening. (;

      After your comment, realized that there is something else we both have in common but I didn’t mention in the post – we will happily fart in public and laugh about it. Heh. Miss those days.

  • 30 Nov 2010
    4:07 AM

    Vera

    Well I’m an agnostic in a society that is made up of 99.99% devout Christians. And I have a worrisome tendency to make a lot of sarcastic remarks… :P

    Not much a deviant. I’m mostly a chicken =_=;

    • 30 Nov 2010
      1:26 PM

      brendalogy

      Haha. That’s not worrisome – it’s great for self-defence!

  • 04 Dec 2010
    11:03 AM

    Krith

    puuurp purrrrp prp. sorry..had to fart online in public and I was rushing to find a safe spot..landed here! :P

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