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27 2010


Been doing a lot of thinking recently.

After having worked full-time for close to half a year, my perspectives have changed greatly. I became more aware of what I was looking for in a job, while my limitations became even more salient through my own eyes.

I always thought I was invincible. I guess my reputation of being that “excellent programmer” and “awesome team member” people generally enjoyed working with back in university stroked my ego a little too much. I generally felt there was nothing I cannot do, and if I can’t – I’ll learn it, and pick it up in a snap.

As a result, methinks I bit off a little more than I could chew when I chose to be a part of this project. Other than being generally present in the social media scene (and doing part time social-media and copywriting for almost nine months), I hardly had any marketing experience. On the other hand, the job scope involved product evangelism through multiple platforms.

Thankfully, I had my programming experience to fall back on, and I ended up doing a mix of tech engineering and marketing. People tell me that being able to do multiple things is my strength – I could write, illustrate, design, code, photograph and conceptualize ideas.

Unfortunately, being able to do too much can also spiral downwards to become a weakness – you end up specializing in nothing. Basically, the jack of all trades but the master of none.

In the second month of my involvement, I was beginning to pick up the vibes. Unfortunately, I have a pretty strong intuition when it comes to picking up signals as to whether I am doing well, or otherwise. And I really hoped I would eventually prove my intuition wrong. The vibes told me that my capabilities were far short of what was expected, and that I’d better pull up my socks.

So I did. I picked up a whole new programming framework in less than a couple of weeks, when my past programming experiences involved little or no frameworks. I read up articles online and reference books on social media and marketing strategies (and applied theories). However, I soon realized that I was constantly playing a game of ‘catch-up’. And if I was doing that, it meant it was unlikely I were to ever significantly contribute something worthwhile.

I soon began to question myself and my abilities endlessly. Here I am in a startup filled with immensely brilliant people, all experts in their own field. They specialize in what they are doing, and they know their craft inside out. Me? I may be able to do many things, but my knowledge is at most surface level.

So, what on earth am I doing here?

I briefly brought up my thoughts to some of my closest friends, who told me repeatedly to stop being silly, that I was thinking too much, and that I had a ridiculously low opinion of myself. I hoped they were right too.

Unfortunately by then, my confidence was practically crawling on the floor – although my ego prevented me from admitting it back then. I really wanted to make a worthwhile contribution, for my presence to actually make a positive difference. However, I was usually struggling to play catch and quite a few times, ended up falling flat on my face. Either because I did something wrong, or produced something that wasn’t up to expectations.

Into the third month, I was beginning to pick up vibes that told me I could possibly be in trouble. I was becoming a bit redundant, and I was surrounded by people who could easily take over individual parts of what I am doing and do it ten times better.

The situation is much worse considering how I am a highly competitive industry. So it becomes a case of may the strongest win.

A couple of times, I have had thoughts of leaving. The team needs talented people who are skilled at their craft, not someone who simply knows the basics. The team needs people they can count on to surge forward in the face of stiff competition, not someone who has to catch up with the pace all the time. I was like a little dimbulb in the presence of all the bright souls around. However, I stayed on – ego strikes again, I suppose. Because leaving would make me seem like a quitter. And I am no quitter.

But the fourth month rolled around and I was beginning to feel really redundant. I mean, I was still contributing tirelessly. But I didn’t feel particularly useful.

It then dawned on me at that point in time that my ideal job has to go more than simply doing what I enjoy doing. I have internal expectations of myself when it comes to work, and I want to exceed them. I wanted to be a part of the forces that pushes things forward, and to make revolutionizing contributions and changes.

Unfortunately, I have way too many limitations in ability.

Limitations can be overcomed – that’s what I had always believed in. However, for someone with such a large ego to be suddenly aware of her multiple limitations, it was a bit too much to handle at one go.

Eventually, the inevitable happened. I was one of the first few to go when the team decided to downsize. And I would be lying if I said I didn’t see that coming.

Again, my intuition proved itself right.

I love my team. I am extremely proud of them and how far they’ve come. As for me being a part of it, I am uncertain as to whether I should be proud of myself or not because part of me thinks I don’t deserve to be there.

I still have faith that my knowledge and ability in multiple tasks will continue to be one of my strengths. However, this strength has to be fitting with the project I choose to work in. If a project involves a team of highly talented folks that are the best of the best in their individual fields, put together while complementing each other nicely, then chances are, I won’t fit in because I’d become redundant very fast.

Meanwhile, I’d try to put my shattered confidence together and continue to broaden my horizons in the world of marketing and social media in the coming months so that I can be my usual rockin’ self in the next project I join.

I had learned a lot in the past five months though. From work habits, to enriched experiences in my different fields – I had especially learned a lot about UX through one of my team mates, not to mention how my programming ability has improved by leaps and bounds. I had also picked up countless habits for creative thinking and idea generation. Oh and yeah, humility.

I still have a long way to go though. One can never be good enough. But I hope to get there.

And I hope the next round, my intuition will be telling me a different story.

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  • 29 Oct 2010
    4:41 AM


    I’m sorry to hear about this. :( It reminds me how important it is to ask for help when you need it, even just say, “Hey, I could use some advice.” I bet you’ll figure out a different thing next time. :)

    • 29 Oct 2010
      11:47 AM


      Ain’t that simple, unfortunately. This goes beyond the necessity of asking for help. It becomes a question of basic ability. Asking for help only solves a specific problem at a specific point of time. Whereas, we certainly cannot rely on people to constantly help us especially when we’re all struggling to move forward in a fast-paced industry. Ultimately, we only have ourselves to rely on.

      Thanks for the encouragement, though. (:

      • 29 Oct 2010
        12:41 PM


        I really meant more like “advice” than help – e.g. take someone out to lunch and ask their tips on managing being part of a team better. So that that person helps lead you in the right direction and also knows that you’re struggling a bit. That way there’s at least a little sympathy for you within the team. Sympathy helps.

        • 29 Oct 2010
          1:06 PM


          Sympathy is risky, actually. :( The world is brutal. Ultimately, people want only the strongest for their team. Show anyone that I am comparatively weaker, and I’d be the first to be cut if they were to downsize. (Which happened.) The same applies elsewhere.

          P/S: Sorry dear, if you want to reply and find that the ‘reply’ button is missing from this comment, start a new thread. My threaded comments only goes to about four levels methinks. I’ll have to fix this during the next redesign!

  • 31 Oct 2010
    5:56 PM


    Absolutely loved your streak of humility and honesty in this article. :) And you can still be the master of “n” trades and jack of “n-1”! In today’s world it is a great asset to have multiple learning abilities and you have that gift of learning something fast when it’s needed..all the best hon!

    • 02 Nov 2010
      12:31 AM


      Thanks babe, I think I still have a long way to go though. (: Meet you soon, yah?

  • 02 Nov 2010
    5:42 AM


    Oh don’t I know this feeling? :(
    I was feeling like this constantly, during the first 2 years in my job. And I can’t say I necessarily found the solution to all this. Buuut I now have more experience, and learning “new” things comes easier for me.

    It sucks to have to man it up, and start looking for a job all over again. BUT you now have some working experience, so it’ll be easier than being hired fresh out uni.

    I wish you all the best, and will keep my fingers crossed for you. :\

    • 02 Nov 2010
      4:20 PM


      There are ups and downs, I guess. Now it’s down, so the only way left to go is up. (:

      I’ve confirmed a new job come January, so here’s to new beginnings. Thanks for your encouragement. (;

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